How to remain celibate while dating

For us women, the bonding hormone of oxytocin is an issue.

If you’re single and trying to keep the golden door closed, you may often find yourself grappling for insight on how to stay on track with that goal.

Grab the February 2012 Essence on newsstands now with LL Cool J on the cover for my advice on abstaining in this way.

Don’t forget to check out my Essence online “Intimacy Intervention” and body language advice in the current issue of Jet Magazine… Taking a vow of celibacy is not the same as experiencing a sexual dry spell.

They met, fell in love, dated and waited until they were married to have sex.

There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.

Celibacy is a conscious choice to take a break from sex.

With these instructions and support from those around you (and perhaps a guide from above), you can lead a celibate life.

He blessed them, and one of the first commands He gave them was to "be fruitful and multiply" (Genesis -28).

So, sexual desire is a big deal to us, because it was first a big deal to God.

After having grown tired of being told not to fornicate without any concrete strategies on how to do that, many couples have asked us how we managed to avoid romps in the sheets when we were single, dating, and waiting.

These are the things that worked for us, that may be a solid starting point for you, too.