Before I start on the lessons I learned about dating a single dad, let me give you a bit of history about me.In early 2011, after almost 10 years of marriage, I found myself divorced, single, in my mid-30s and (gasp!! For the first year and a half of my new “singleness” I shunned the thought of dating.There are plenty, like me, who are blissfully lacking in life experience, have yet to reach the big 3-0, and spend more time swiping left on Tinder instead.Real talk: Considering the 200 different directions I’m pulled in each day—which include working full time; waking up with my six-month-old daughter at ungodly hours; cooking; cleaning; carpooling; bathing; co-parenting; dealing with temper tantrums; and still attempting to take care of myself—the mere of dating can sometimes seem nothing short of impossible.
Jenn,” and author of For better results when checking out prospects online, “focus on characteristics, qualities, and life desires,” adds Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist, clinician and author of the relationship wellness blog, That means that if they didn’t bother to include those interests in their profile, they’re probably not worth a date.Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. Parents are super protective of their kids (think about your mom and dad).They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks. Introducing a new person to a child’s life is a serious thing.And let’s not forget that I’m just a theme song word for word, but couldn’t for the life of me name ONE song from Kanye’s latest album. I mean, if I can manage to balance everything life throws my way while parenting an infant at my young age, I can certainly handle dating. Still, to sharpen my skills before heading into the trenches, I asked a few experts for advice on navigating the dating scene as a single 20-something mom. Sure, it used to seem like great fun to get tipsy and swipe right on potential hookups less than 10 miles away—20, if he or she is really hot—but apps like Tinder are more likely to land just that: A hookup and not a serious dating candidate.“Swiping apps shouldn’t be your screening process for dates,” says Dr.